Monthly Archives: January 2014

You Are Gorgeous

IMG_0808Everyone of us has unique talents that make us gorgeous.  No one is exactly the same as you.  Many people hide their talents or dismiss them.  Perhaps they work or live in a  place where their talents aren’t appreciated.

At Robin Sharma’s recent Titan conference there were two pieces of advice that I absolutely loved and I would like to share them with you.  I would encourage you to ponder the wisdom of these words.

The first one came from Dr James Rouse, ‘If you find yourself in a room where you are asked to dim your light, excuse yourself and move forward elsewhere.  Do not let others dim your gift.  Find those that appreciate what you bring to this world’.

The second one was from James Victore, ‘The world wants what you have, bring it out’.

I love both of these quotes because they are terrific reminders that we are all unique and have special gifts that need to be shared.

It is when we stand in our own brilliance that we light up the world.  Whether it is your gorgeous smile that makes others feel loved, your talent with words, or your ability to sit and listen to someone else without judgment.  Whatever it is that you find easy (and probably dismiss because it is easy) are the things you need to do more of and share with the world.

Some people are scared of their talents or have believed well-meaning advice from people who don’t share these talents and therefore have hidden these talents away.  Please make this week the week that you pull out those talents, dust them off and start using them.

My wish for you this week is that you explore and use your talents.  You (and your talents) are a gift to this world and, when you know that to be true, you can’t help but be anything other than gorgeous.

Finally I would encourage you all to read (daily) Marianne Williamson’s beautiful poem, ‘Our Deepest Fear’.

Until next week, be gorgeous.

 

If you listen to your fears,  you will die never knowing what a great person you might have been.

Robert Schuller

 

 

 

Hugs

I love hugs.  They have always been my preferred way of saying goodbye.  I also love to use them when someone is looks like they are feeling a bit down.

At a recent four day conference I attended I gave out lots of hugs.  Then one of the presenters talked about how hugs provide wonderful chemical benefits and I decided that I needed to start a hugging revolution.

At the conference we also discussed what makes a great hug: it turns out it has a lot to do with how long the hug goes for.  Apparently if you maintain a hug for 7 seconds or longer it sends your oxytocin crazy. 

Oxytocin is a hormone that also is stimulated when you kiss someone.  It is called the ‘hormone of love.’  It acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain and it gives you feelings of love. 

The sad thing is that in our workplaces (and even sometimes at home) we find that these feelings (and the oxytocin) are being drowned out by negative things such as fear and stress.

Previously I have mostly given hugs family, friends and others who have looked sad.  At the conference I decided that I would greet as many people as I could with a hug. One of the things I observed was that after the first one or two hugs, other people started approaching me for hugs.  By the end of the four day conference there was a lot of people giving long hugs, not just to me but to others around them.  People were smiling and really bonding with one another. 

So this week I am encouraging you to give out some seven second hugs.  Start with your loved ones.  Yes, if you haven’t done it for a while it will feel awkward, but please persist.  The benefits to both of you will be worth any uncomfortableness.  Maybe even reach out to a work colleague who looks a bit down or perhaps just to a stranger (I will leave that up to you to decide).

I hope you will join me in creating a hugging revolution.  The worst thing that can happen to you is you feel good.

Until next week, seven second hugs from me and have a magical one.

A hug is the shortest distance between friends.

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